You’ve mentioned one of her friends has tried dropping you hints about her past.
The only way knowing everything about one’s spouse’s past life can help is in tackling nosy outsiders like this friend, eager to spill the beans and laugh as the two of you shred your married life to pieces.
One day I decided to see for myself what she was actually looking at.
I checked my history file and saw the regular average site, but one day I did find that she was looking a XXX sites.
I’d expressed intentions of joining Facebook and connecting with her batch mates in the hope of finding out about her past and whether she had sex before marriage. Normally I would tell you to close your eyes, take a deep breath and let it go.
She vehemently opposed this and refused to give away even the names of her classmates. In spite of what all this might suggest, I love her. Usually you achieve nothing by finding out the details of your spouse’s sex-life before he/she met you.
Hence you need to know at least what others know – i.e. Believe me Anon, you do not need to know any more than this to ward off well-meaning hints and suggestions from outsiders.basics like how many past relationships she’s been in, how many of them she’s had sex with and who was the last. At the same time you must promise (her and yourself) never to entertain these advances from outsiders. Coming to the question of your parents’ reaction – you should remember that your wife is living with your parents.It’s she who’s moved to a new home and made a new family her own, not them.My father has recently taunted her with this overheard info first time in three years. At the same time I can’t drive away the visions of her having sex before marriage with another man.I find myself wondering about the details like how she managed to have sex before marriage with anyone in a small town, how deeply in love she must’ve been to have disregarded the most important family restriction, whether she gave him farewell sex etc.And their interference in it is entirely unwelcome.