You have control over the impression you want to deliver, from that perfect photo to the charming and witty dating profile that captures and holds their attention. She hasn’t responded to a single email you ever sent… One of the risks (for suitably inflated values of “risk”) that you’re going to come across in the world of online dating is the dating site account that’s dead yet still shuffling around: the zombie profile.
Of course, there’s nothing quite so frustrating when you put all of that effort into your profile and start sending out all of those messages… In fact, that’s the reason why so many men quit online dating entirely; who wants to expend all of that emotional energy only to get kicked in the metaphorical nuts by that empty inbox every time you log in? Well, to mangle an old saying: once is happenstance, twice is coincidence, three times means you’re doing something wrong. It looks for all the world like a normal account, but the person who owns it hasn’t logged on in over three months… Sending messages, winks, pokes, flowers or other signs of interest is the digital equivalent to ringing the doorbell of an abandoned house. Zombie profiles litter their account – something that many dating sites make as difficult as possible in order to artificially inflate their numbers.
Participants were asked questions including: Imagine that you are going on a date with this person and have 0 in your wallet.
How much money would you be willing to spend on your date?
These sorts of accounts will have unsubtle clues as to how to reach them elsewhere… When you’re constantly being deluged by strangers wanting to get to know you naked, you’re likely to start paying less and less attention to the actual content of the email.
This also means that you need to have an attention-getting subject line to your messages. If she talks about sports, mention sports in the title.
' A groundbreaking study by two University of Rochester psychologists to be published online Oct.
28 by the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology adds colorliterally and figurativelyto the age-old question of what attracts men to women.
The most common subject line that women receive is a variation on “Hello”: Hey, Hi, ‘sup, Yo, how YOU doin’, etc. If you two have a mutual interest in books, put that in the subject! I’ve always had good responses from “Pirates are inherently better than Ninjas” or “Zombies are superior to Vampires”.
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Don’t bother hoping that they’ll notice the “You have a new message!