I’ve read many books about relationships and Christian dating. His views helped me establish my own standards regarding marriage.I decided that I wanted nothing less than God’s best for me. It means if you have doubts about the relationship, if your significant other doesn’t treat you with the upmost respect, if you argue more than you get along, if you constantly find yourself defending him or her to your friends, then end it.I truly wanted to do what I felt was God’s will, but I also really didn’t want to give up the relationship.It wasn’t until I was fully ready to obey God’s leading, that the answer came.Since I had not done such a great job of choosing relationships on my own, I decided to let God choose the next one.I wouldn’t even consider dating again until I had sought His will about the person and the relationship.When friends began to point out other red flags about our relationship, I took some time to seriously seek God’s will on the matter.
For someone whose “love language” is spending quality time together, that was a major issue.
These are hardly lonely, disconnected people who simply cannot find a spouse.
Instead, they are choosing self-marriage to show how happy they truly are as singles.
After that relationship, I had come to the end of my dating rope.
“I don’t want to fall in love with anyone else until it is ‘the right one,’” I told God.
Once I took my fingers out of my ears and agreed to truly hear what God had to say, His answer was quite clear. It’s not easy to break up with someone that you have grown close to.