The idea of falling in love should never be the sole reason for marrying someone; it is very easy to confuse infatuation and lust for love.
The problem with that premise is that no consideration is given to that time is spent.
But if a husband separates from his wife with an oath that he will not have conjugal relations with her, then he has only four months to reconcile. [In Shari`ah, ila’ means that the husband swears that he will not have sexual intercourse with his wife, either for an unrestricted period or for more than four months.] Allah says, “Those who swear that they will not go into their wives, the waiting period is four months.
Then if they go back, Allah is surely Forgiving, Merciful.
Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.
In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.
The fundamental emotional need of a man is to be respected and appreciated.