When a guy says “I’m not ready for a relationship”, or “I have trust issues”, or “it’s not the right time for a relationship” – please believe him. But: Starting a new relationship when you live hundreds of miles away from each other is doomed to fail and break your heart. We are all controlled by our ego (mostly), but guys are especially tricky. In fact, a recent survey found that guys would rather be unloved and alone than unrespected.LDRs are hard enough for long-term married couples, but impossible for new couples, who know nothing about each other and are not even “officially” in love. Most of them consider these 2 feelings as the exact same. You may not be aware of it, but you can make a guy feel unrespected, completely unknowingly.Game playing: This strategy is usually employed for one of two reasons. When it comes to dating, everyone, on some level, fears rejection.Playing it cool and not getting too involved may make you feel safe, but you risk coming across as aloof or remote, and may turn the other person off.
This form of manipulation is simply unacceptable (to put it mildly), and does not lead to healthy relationships.
Plus, talking sh*t about your ex will make your guy realize that this is how you’ll talk about him too, if you break up. Dating a player is so hard to avoid if you’re crushing on one.
Players are usually charismatic, funny, attractive, and know their “worth”.
If you put yourself down, focus on your flaws and your past mistakes, that’s how he will see you too.
You don’t have to pretend to be someone other than yourself.
His silence will break your heart and all you’ll want to do is run away and hide under a rock.